Change and impermanence are everywhere present, both in nature and throughout our material world of structure and technology. But nowhere is the ebb and flow of change more intimately felt than in our relationships with friends, family and co-workers, where we find even the most enduring connections can transform in sudden and unexpected ways. Our closest bonds are our most important anchors in life and often provide the lens through which we see not only ourselves, but, to a large extent, the world around us. The mirror held before us through these relationships is most often the truest and clearest and, if we dare look deeply enough, provides an instrument of amazing growth and transformation. When close ties are broken, whether through the transition of death or a simple parting of paths, this same reflection illuminates the way to understanding and acceptance, even while coping with the sting of impermanence.

After the loss of the presence of a dear friend several months ago, I have gazed into this reflected pool on a daily basis and have been given profound insights into the many facets of myself, both light and dark. While challenging, the process unerringly cleared my vision, allowing me to see the underlying elements of our friendship and the roles we played with, and for, each other. While the change is not one I would have consciously chosen, I now embrace a fuller, richer view and have come to a peaceful resolution within myself.

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